About Big Bear: Creator Spotlight Interview on Authenticity and Content Creation
In our first ever Creator Spotlight, TrustyFans Founder & CEO, Jack Anderson, sits down with content creator Big Bear — a 6’3” dominant creator known for blending passion, kink, and authenticity in everything he does. Since starting in 2021, he’s built a loyal fanbase by leaning into his genuine self: unapologetically bi, consent-focused, playful yet dominant, and always real. In our conversation, Big Bear talks about his journey into adult content, how authenticity drives his growth, his experiences with collaborations, his long-term goals, and why he sees TrustyFans as a game-changer for creators. Listen to the full interview above to hear Big Bear’s story in his own words.
Jack’s Take: Reflections on My Conversation with Big Bear
I had so much fun hosting our very first Creator Spotlight with Big Bear. The conversation was lighthearted, genuine, and full of laughs, but it was also eye-opening. He taught me things about the industry and platforms that I hadn’t considered before, and I walked away with a deeper appreciation for what creators put into their work.
My biggest takeaway: Big Bear is genuinely authentic, exactly who he says he is. Our chat confirmed that his brand of being unapologetically himself isn’t just a message — it’s truly how he lives and creates. The most eye-opening part was how much cost, time, and energy collabs demand, something many fans might not realize. Huge shout-out to creators who make those shoots happen.
Authenticity isn’t a tactic; it’s the engine.
Hearing Big Bear describe his turning point (ditching the “porn mold,” embracing his body, and letting fans see all of him) was powerful. It’s a reminder to creators that audiences don’t want a template or “copy + paste” version of creators; they want the person.
Consent, care, and craft can coexist.
I loved learning about his on-camera consent chats before shooting collabs, attention to aftercare, and the way he balances tenderness with intensity. I can understand how that professionalism is what makes collaborations feel safe, hot, and repeatable.
Reinforcing that Content creation is a real business with real costs.
Testing, locations, editing, travel… Big Bear pulled back the curtain on the $1,000–$3,000 price tag of a single collab day. The “stacked shoot” strategy and multi-platform distribution shows how much planning goes into sustainable growth.
Beyond that, Big Bear’s fan stories such as coffee meetups, being spoiled in New York City, and staying present in DMs highlight how connection fuels longevity and growth as a creator. His candid take on “OF sites” that scrape creator content also hit home. It reinforced why we’re building TrustyFans the way we are: creator opt-in, searchable by kinks and traits, and designed to help the right fans find the right creators.
Personally, I walked away energized. Big Bear’s “Big Bear fucks everyone” bravado is fun, but what impressed me most was the kindness, inclusivity, and discipline behind it.
Transcript of the Interview with Big Bear:
Introductions
Jack Anderson: Welcome everybody to the creator spotlight series brought to you by TrustyFans. I’m Jack Anderson, Founder and CEO of Trusty Fans, and this series is all about highlighting the journeys, challenges, and wins of creators who are building their own unique paths. For those who are new to TrustyFans here, TrustyFans is the first creator search engine that helps fans actually find you by kinks, content type, or traits so the right people can discover your work. We’re not an agency. We’re not an OnlyFans-style platform. We don’t take a cut of your earnings, and we don’t own your content. Instead, we give you a platform to showcase your authentic self, market your brand, and connect with fans who are already searching for someone like you.
And so as we were talking about a little bit earlier, in this, today’s guest is somebody who embodies this spirit. Big Bear. Welcome, Big Bear.
Big Bear: Thanks for having me on.
Jack: Yeah. Of course. Big Bear is a 6’3” dominant creator known for blending passion, kink, and authenticity into everything he does. Since starting in 2021, he’s carved out a loyal fan base by leaning into his genuine self: unapologetically bi, consent-focused, playful yet dominant, and always real. With dual degrees in math and business, including an MBA, he balances a professional career while thriving as a performer. His content is known for being diverse, high energy, and inclusive because, as he puts it, “Big Bear fucks everyone.” Big Bear again, welcome.
Big Bear: Thank you.
Why Big Bear Started Creating
Jack: Yeah. Of course. So, yeah, let’s just start with simple stuff. So for fans meeting you for the first time, how would you describe yourself in just a few words?
Big Bear: Yeah. I mean, I like to say I’m genuine. You know? I’d like to say that, you know, obviously, a big giant of a guy and, obviously, very inclusive. And I’m caring and everything, so it’s not like I’m the asshole dom that, you know, people kind of expect, you know, with a dom. But, I’m not afraid to be myself and to joke around and have fun with it. And, you know, I think that that’s really at the core, you know, what attracts people to me.
Jack: That makes sense. Do you think that’s what surprises people the most when they meet you the first time that you’re not an asshole?
Big Bear: Yeah. Well, honestly, yeah. You know, that and people open the door and they even though I’ve told them my weight and my height, you know, they and they’ve seen pictures of me online. Like, you’ve you’ve seen me from every angle. You’ve seen every pore of my body. But, like, in person, you open the door and I’m towering over you and I’m filling up the whole doorway and it’s like this massive giant there. You know, it surprises people. It definitely does.
Jack: I would imagine it’d be like a football player standing right in front of me all of a sudden.
Big Bear: Exactly. Exactly. Yep.
Jack: That’s interesting. Well, cool. Yeah. What first drew you to start doing content creation, and what keeps you motivated today?
Big Bear: Yeah. So well, what I first started because the company that I work for was getting acquired. And, you know, if anybody’s been through an acquisition, you know, that it’s kind of, you know, it can be hairy. You’re looking at, “am I getting laid off?” And that was really the big fear. And I was like, okay. How can I make a couple bucks?
At the time, OnlyFans was really growing. Everybody was doing OnlyFans. I Googled around, and I was like, okay. There are some big guys doing some OnlyFans and doing well. So let me dive into this. I’m like, what do I do well? Well, I’m good at sex. So I should be good at this. Right?
Jack: Mhmm.
Big Bear: That being said, like, it didn’t really go well. You know, the first two years were a struggle. You know, I felt like everything I did, I was making tons of content, and it was just no fans. It was like I was struggling constantly to make fifty bucks a month. And it was like, you’d get a couple fans and then a couple fans would leave. And it’s like,”why am I doing all this work?” You know? Is it worth it? But I stuck with it and, you know, it eventually got some momentum. But, that’s, you know, I started it needing money. And, you know, if I hadn’t been depending on that money, it would have not worked out.
The Turning Point: Embracing Authenticity
Jack: Gotcha. What was kinda that first moment when you realized, hey. This is working. The things I’m doing is actually working.
Big Bear: Yeah. I think it was me actually buying into, you know, who I am rather than, trying to be someone else. You know, you look on OnlyFans, you see the other guys, and they have six packs and massive cocks. And, like, everybody’s, like, super porny, typical, like, Brazzers look and everything. And there’s, you know, I was like, okay. That’s not me. I was trying to be kind of the normal porn look, I guess. And I was obviously, I’m not. You know? So it’s like I was just trying to hide who I am.
And when I started doing collabs, then I started, you know, working with people and putting stuff out there, and I would wear a shirt. You know, I’d wear, like, my suit, my business shirt, you know, a shirt, and, you know, kinda hide my tummy, that kind of thing. And then, but fans would start saying, I wanna see your tummy. Like, I’m literally here because you’re a massive dude. I wanna see all of you.
And so it wasn’t until, like, I kind of embraced that that I started to grow. Once I started to just instead of trying to hide it, you know, and try to, you know, focus on the model and not me and try like, as soon as I really embraced that, you know, there are people out there that are looking for me. You know, then I started to take off.
Jack: Yeah. That’s amazing. That’s a great journey that kinda goes into my next question, but you already kinda answered it was, what’s one lesson you wish you knew at the start? And to me it sounds like being your genuine self. Is that, kind of, the lesson?
Big Bear: Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. Don’t feel like you have to appeal to some other niche. You know, there’s niches out there for everybody. You know, everybody wants to, you know, there’s all kinds of fetishes. There’s all kinds of looks. Everybody’s attracted to a wide spectrum of things. You’re gonna appeal to somebody. So, you know, don’t try to be somebody you’re not.
Big Bear’s Platform Strategy: Where Content Lives
Jack: Yeah. Yeah. That’s great advice. Alright. That’s great. So I’m curious. Let’s dig into a little bit more of the behind the scenes of you as a creator and maybe what goes where, what content, and maybe talk about your momentum you’ve been building since that time. And so, I know you’re active on many platforms, which I think a lot of creators are. So I know you have an OnlyFans, you have a ManyVids, DarkFans, Pornhub. Did I miss other things you might be on?
Big Bear: Yeah. Yeah. And I just started SextPanther yesterday.
Jack: Oh okay.
Big Bear: So it’s like yeah. But yeah. OnlyFans, Fansly, DarkFans, JustFor.Fans, ManyVids, and Pornhub.
Jack: Yeah. Wow. So how do you decide where content goes where? You know, is it repeat or what?
Big Bear: Yeah. No. Some of it is a repeat. And it really depends, some of it depends on who’s verified on what platforms and stuff like that. You know, I try to do my best to get good paperwork from everybody so that I can post everywhere.
Jack: Mhmm.
Big Bear: But, some platforms, even though you have their 2257 form, they won’t let you post unless you’re using, like, the Fansly specific release form, you know, that kind of thing. So sometimes I’ll have content that doesn’t end up going on Fansly just because the person’s not verified on Fansly. I don’t have the Fansly specific form, so I can’t use that content there.
But, you know, OnlyFans and Fansly, I pretty much mirror. And almost all my fans are on OnlyFans. I have a decent following. I’m making good money off of OnlyFans. Fansly, you know, it’s, you know, eight fans, you know, and they’re here and there. You know, so I keep trying to work on it, but I’m not putting a ton of effort into it. It’s more just keeping cross posting the same stuff there.
JustFor.Fans, I’m keeping to just gay content and solo content. So I was getting feedback from some of my gay fans. They didn’t wanna see me, you know, with women. And so I’m like, okay. I need to make a platform that just gives them that content. So that’s what I put on JustFor.Fans.
And one of the things that had been happening to me so much is getting yelled at by the platforms, especially OnlyFans, that my, you know, my content — my kinky content — and stuff like that wasn’t welcome there. And, you know, even to the point where they were threatening taking down my account, and that’s a lot of money every month to be losing if they take my account.
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: So I was like, okay. Screw this. I’m gonna make a DarkFans account. And DarkFans allows you to post just about anything. You know, it has to be legal. They still are big on the paperwork and everything. But, like, extreme kinks are still okay on DarkFans. So anything that kinda pushes the boundaries is just gonna go on DarkFans and not on the other ones. So I priced that one a little bit higher because they get all the same stuff that I put on OnlyFans, only they get the kinkier stuff also. So that stuff goes on DarkFans.
And then Pornhub is basically like a content marketing strategy for me. It gets a lot more eyeballs, a lot more traffic than you can ever get with any of the other platforms. But you’re kind of sacrificing your traffic. You’re giving content away. You know, you’re not getting paid a lot for it. And, you know, in order to monetize, it has to be a certain length, but you’re not getting a ton of money from that content. So it’s more of a marketing tool to put yourself on Pornhub, put content out there that’s gonna lure people in and make them wanna look at your OnlyFans.
So, you know, the downside is I don’t have a ton out there because other creators that I work with have to be willing to sacrifice their content also. Have to be kind of on board with that strategy. If they’re not on board with that strategy — and most of them aren’t, you know, they just wanna sell their content, PPV, that kind of thing — they’re not okay with just putting it on on Pornhub because that’s revenue lost to them. So, but they have to be kind of on board for me to put them on Pornhub, and do that. So that’s my strategy for Pornhub. So there’s a little bit different for everybody, for, you know, JustFor.Fans, DarkFans, OnlyFans… you got a different view of me depending on what platform you’re subscribing to.
And then Manyvids exist because some people don’t want to pay a subscription. I’ve found that out. You know, I’d rather pay a subscription than just get unlimited access to content. But, some people wanna buy content, and they actually just wanna buy a video that they want. And so Manyvids allows people to do that, and it ends up being a decent amount of money every month.
Jack: Wow. Yeah. Good strategy for all these. I didn’t really realize DarkFans allowed so much kinda kink content. That’s new for me to learn.
Big Bear: Mhmm.
Collaboration Strategy and Picking Partners
Jack: Yeah. I was curious. You’re talking about collabs, and I know that’s kind of a big talk in the industry of, “should I do solo content or collabs?” I was kind of curious of your mindset about collabs. How do you find a good partner? You talked about getting the proper paperwork in place. Just curious about, like, what you’re willing to share about your collab kind of content strategy.
Big Bear: Yeah. Yeah. So when I’m working on collabs, there’s, you know, I’ll take some shoots and do collabs with people that, you know, I’m almost kind of doing a favor because they see that I have a lot of followers and they want a piece of that. So, with me, I’m just looking at that as content that I can sell. You know, it’s not that I’m gaining any followers from them. It’s that, you know, I have another hot video to sell. So when I’m picking those kinds of collab partners, it’s, you know, I’m picking people that meet an aesthetic that that I know is gonna sell.
You know, whether it’s a size different shoot where I’m just massive and they’re tiny, or it’s, like, two bears together. You know, just something where it’s gonna appeal to something and so that I’m going to be able to sell it. But, you know, the ideal collab is they have a decent follower count. And when you collab with them, you’re picking up some of their followers.
You know, they’re, you know, they’re exposing you to 30,000 followers when you collab with them. So, you know, that helps you grow. So, you know, I encourage people if their personal boundaries allow them to collab to do it, because it does help you grow a lot faster than you could as a solo creator. Not that you can’t as a solo creator. I see some people that are extremely successful, even no-face solo.
Jack: Oh yeah.
Big Bear: Like, but it’s definitely more rare. Like, the collab strategy allows you to get a lot of content out there that’s, getting a lot of exposure to a lot of people and, and gives you access to your collab partner’s, you know, following.
Jack: Yeah. That makes sense. When you look at follower count, are you typically looking at their OnlyFans follower numbers, or are you looking at their X? Kind of curious about your threshold and where you’re looking.
Big Bear: I know everybody’s different. I look at X because that’s pretty much where I live. But I know there are some models who don’t have much presence on X but are huge on Instagram or TikTok. That’s fine too. I just want them to have a following somewhere. X is where I default to first. But if somebody’s huge on TikTok or Instagram, and they don’t really use Twitter, then I’m fine with them, you know, collabing with them because I know I’ll be exposed to a whole new space.
Jack: Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. Having a huge following wherever, their probably going to retweet or repost things, and they’re going to get more exposure, and you are too, so that makes a lot of sense.
Big Bear: Yeah.
Most Memorable Collab Experience
Jack: Speaking of collabs, I’m curious, maybe, one collab memory that stands out as super fun or super meaningful that you might want to share?
Big Bear: Yeah. Well I mean, I’ve had several. I think one really was with Battering Ram. When I collabed with him, he was just so — and his follower count was like twice mine so it’s not like he was a tiny creator — but he was like fan-boying on me the whole time. He acted so excited to shoot with me just like I was his dream come true to shoot with.
Jack: Wow.
Big Bear: And that energy came through in the shoot. It was like, just that kind of energy that he brought, being like worshipping me, and being so happy that I would shoot with him, was something that made that exciting.
Jack: That seems like a really fun time. Thanks for sharing that.
Big Bear: Mhmm.
Fan Interactions and Setting Boundaries
Jack: I was reading some of your posts and things like that. It seems like fans are such a huge part of your story.
Big Bear: Yeah.
Jack: I was curious if we want to talk more about what relationships look like beyond just the screen, if that works?
Big Bear: Yeah.
Jack: You said you meet fans in person sometimes. I’m just curious what makes those experiences unique to maybe an online connection or DMs.
Big Bear: Absolutely. So first of all, I wish I could meet everybody. I wish I could talk to everybody. DMs, I get hit with at least one hundred different people every day.
Jack: Wow
Big Bear: And sometimes more. And so it’s really hard to get to everybody, especially if you get into a conversation with one. You start moving in that conversation, and you burn a ton of time on one person, and you don’t get to talk to everybody else.
Jack: Mhmm.
Big Bear: So, that’s really the challenge. I want to be one of the creators that pays someone else to do the chatting. Because, that’s not authentic. When I chat with you, I wanna chat with you. So meeting somebody actually gives me a chance to, like, actually devote time to them, and you know, actually spend time with them, get to know them, and stuff like that. So I really love that. It’s like, fans are really important to me. Obviously, you’re paying my bills, you’re feeding me.
Jack: Sure.
Big Bear: But it’s more than that. It’s, you’re the one helping me grow. And a lot of the feedback I get from fans is what they wanna see and what they want me to do or what they’re interested into and that helps me go.
But yea, so it’s like, really, getting to know my fans is huge. I love it when I’m doing a cam show, and somebody I’ve met get into the cam show and, obviously because they know me, they’re first to tip and everything so it always makes a big difference. But you know, those experiences just let me feel closer to them, and I know it helps retention with them as well.
Jack: Yea. I think that’s great. That’s really unique that you’re messaging each and every fan. I know, like you said, a lot of creators will hire, like AI bots or things like that to just respond.
Big Bear: Mhmm.
Jack: And so, it’s really unique that you’re literally you as the person responding to each one of these people now.
Big Bear: Yep.
Jack: When you meet fans face-to-face, is there any kind of boundaries you set up beforehand or anything you kinda do in that aspect?
Big Bear: Yeah. I think well, mentally, I do kinda feel them out ahead of time. And if there’s somebody I don’t want to, or I have a feeling they’re gonna get too pushy beyond boundaries,
Jack: Mhmm.
Big Bear: Stuff like that, then I won’t, you know, meet them. You know? So it really I kinda feel them out as far as what they’re into and what they want. You know? I did pro cuddling for a while years ago.
Jack: Oh, wow.
Big Bear: So, and, like, BigBear4Cuddles is my screen name.
Jack: Oh!
Big Bear: So it’s like, cuddling is a lot of how I recharge. So it’s like, you know, put your arms around somebody and talk to them,and just hang out and cuddle for a while. That’s something that I love doing. So, that’s something that I’m always down for with people. And, obviously, it’s more intimate than a lot of things. So, that’s a little crazy. But, some people just wanted me when I was down in Florida for a FetCon, I met a fan, and he just took me out to lunch and coffee, and we hung out for, like, an hour and a half.
Jack: Wow!
Big Bear: And, it was just spending time with the fan. I’ve had a fan, take me to New York, and, basically, he was into feeding and feedism and stuff like that and just wanted to watch me eat.
Jack: Okay.
Big Bear: And he spent, like on the weekend, he spent about $10,000 on me just taking me to four star restaurants and feeding me everything I could want, took me to live entertainment and all kinds of stuff, and then fed me again. And it was just like, dude was going out of the way to spoil me. And so, like, those kinds of experiences are amazing to me. It makes me feel special, but, obviously, it it it’s great for them too, and they love it.
But, yeah, as far as boundaries, it’s really I feel it out on a case by case basis. And if they’re if they’re freaky, if it’s the kind of freak that I’m into, then sure!
Jack: Okay.
Big Bear: But, if it’s not, or if it’s not something that it’s not gonna work in the timing or if it’s just not right at the moment, like, I’m gonna say no and say, “hey maybe another time, but let’s grab coffee now” or something. And I still wanna meet them. But, I’m trying to set some kind of guidelines around that.
Surprising and Unique Fan Moments
Jack: Yeah. That makes sense. You know, we talked about your most memorable creator moment. I was curious if you wanna share your most memorable fan moment or surprising fan interaction or something fun like that.
Big Bear: Yeah. Well, I mean, I get a ton of requests every day. So there’s just, there’s some insane stuff. But, I love it when, like that fan that took me to New York. It was out of the blue. He had no expectations from me and just wanted to basically spend money on me and watch me eat. Like, what?
Jack: Yes. That is different.
Big Bear: Yeah. That insane. And, other people will send me Gucci ties and stuff like that or send me money for pedicures. And so, like, I love those interactions. The crazy ones is where they say that they’re in love with you, and I get about ten of those a day. And, you know, to me, sex and love are completely different situations.
Jack: Mhmm.
Big Bear: And, you know, so they’re like, I’m in love with you and all this stuff, and then sometimes they get a little too stalkery. So that’s when it gets a little too crazy, and you’re like, okay. I need to back this guy down a little bit. But, yeah.
Jack: Yeah. It’s good that you have that safety kind of mechanism or boundary. Like, “okay, this is not what I want, and this is too much at this point.”
Big Bear: Yeah.
Jack: Yeah. That makes sense. Well, I’m glad you had that really fun experience in New York. That sounds super cool and fun and different.
Big Bear: Absolutely.
Jack: Awesome.
Big Bear: Just more of those. You know? If I could have somebody spoil me, like, once a month, that would be awesome.
A Day in the Life of Big Bear
Jack: Yeah. No. That sounds super fun. Switching gears a little bit because I think a lot of people don’t really understand, or fans, how much work goes into the day to day of being a content creator. Just curious if you wanted to share walking us through a typical content day versus kind of a more laid back day or or something of your life.
Big Bear: Yeah. Yeah. So there’s a couple different variations, but I’d say probably my typical day is, I have — my computer is is pretty badassm and I have four screens. And one of my screens is basically dedicated to this.
And so I have tabs open with all my socials, and I have tabs open for all my spicy sites. And, I’m sitting here, like, you know, reacting and responding to DMs. I always give the spicy sites, kind of preferable treatment when it comes to DMs and stuff. But then I start to get into Twitter.
I try to get some stuff posted. I try to post daily, to social, to like, my spicy sites, I try to drop something, like, a full length scene twice a week. So I try to make sure on top of that.
So we’re having those scheduled and queued up and everything. And that takes work. It takes some time to get everything scheduled and queued up, and then you realize, “oh, you forgot to queue something up on this one, but you did on this one.” And then fans are like, “are we ever gonna see that scene you did with so and so?”
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: So, you know, so that’s that’s a little bit of what I’m doing, but I’m trying to do that while doing my day job. So it’s like I have my day job meetings and things like that at the same time. So it’s like I’m kind of overlapping a lot, and it ends up pushing the hours later into the day also doing stuff. So, you know but that’s kind of a typical day.
When I’m doing content days, when I’m doing so, you know, solo content is one thing. I need to get better at it. You know, it’s very important. I need to get better at it. It’s just, you know, a lot of times I just put the phone in selfie mode and go to town, you know, where I should actually set up lighting, set up the scene, you know, do it right, like I would on a collab. But, a lot of times I’m just lazy on solo, and I realized that I need to do it better. But, when I’m doing collabs, I try to make the most of it. It’s expensive.
People don’t realize how much expense is in it. They’re like, “oh, you should go here and shoot with this person this weekend.” I’m like, well, I’m not gonna have testing done by this weekend. So that’s a no. But, number one, testing. That’s about three hundred bucks. A hotel room, I try not to shoot at, like, a ghetto hotel. I want your shoots to actually look nicer if you’re in a nice hotel.
Jack: Makes sense.
Real Costs of a Collab Day
Big Bear: Makes sense. You know, so, and if it’s an architecturally unique space, that’s even better. But that’s a lot of times, it’s harder to rent those as well. So but, you know, let’s say $300-$400 dollars for a hotel or a space to shoot in.
And then you have a photographer, and then I’ll pay for people to edit. I edit also, but, just the amount of content I have, it usually takes, I have myself and two other people editing through myself all day.
Jack: Okay, I was about to ask that.
Big Bear: Yeah. So two different editors who are also content creators, but they have much less of a backlog than me, and they’re like, “I’ll edit for you.” And so I pay them to edit.
Jack: Okay.
Big Bear: Yeah. So editing costs money. Testing costs money. The hotel. If there’s travel involved, getting there, you know, tolls, gas, time lost, all kinds of stuff. So a lot of times, there’s a lot of expense. Usually, a collab’s about $1,000 in costs for me.
Jack: Costs.
Big Bear: If I’m traveling somewhere further like New York City, usually, the hotels are more expensive. It costs more to park. The prices are higher for everything. Usually, I’m gonna bring in a photographer because there are photographers that are willing to shoot you there. So, you know, usually then, I’m $2,000-$3,000 for a collab. So it ends up being a lot more. So I try to get a lot more shoots in.
If I’m getting a hotel room, if I’m doing all this fun traveling, not just have a collab with one person. I’m trying to collab with one person for these two or three hours and then give myself an hour break to shower, change bedding, etc., and then another shoot, and then another break, and then another shoot. So I’ll try to get, like, three shoots in a day. When I go to New York
Jack: Wow. Well, yeah, that makes sense. That’s a lot of time and money to kinda just have one shoot and then go home. Right?
Big Bear: Mhmm. Yep. Exactly.
Jack: It seems yeah. I mean, what you’re talking about seems like a lot of a lot of costs, a lot of time, a lot of energy being posted on that. Maybe that’s what excites you? I’m not sure. Buthow do you keep yourself motivated when, like, costs and time can stack up during today?
Big Bear: Oh, it’s hard. Well, the costs I mean, I’m basically paying the costs with my day job. You know, it’s I’m looking at it all as an investment and, you know, I’m not gonna I’m not going to…that shoot is not gonna pay for itself this month. It’s gonna take a couple months to pay for itself. So I just look at it as, you know, I gotta keep doing this and keep the content coming in order to keep growing. And so everything I do is an investment, basically. Everything I edit, every time I spend, all the money is an investment. But in the moment, it can be a challenge to keep the energy going.
Let’s say you just had an exhausting shoot with somebody and you really laid it all out there, and then you go and grab a shower and change the bedding, and you have somebody else knocking on the door ready to shoot. And they’re fresh walking in doing their makeup and everything, and you’re like, “I just laid it all out on the last one.” Like, you’re sitting here pounding Gatorade and trying to, like, smack yourself to wake up, like and and then doing it again.
Event Shoot Cadence and Planning
So, events like FetCon and Exxxotica and AVN, like, when we go, a lot of those events, they’re kinda advertised as kind of expo events. But us creators go there to — yeah we go to the expo, we meet vendors and partners and stuff — but, we spend most of our time there shooting with each other. So we’ll line up our schedule, like, for Exxxotica.
So I have two-hour blocks where it’s two hours and then a one hour, break, then two hours, then one hour break, two hours, one hour break every day for four days, in order to get content. So you usually walk away with a hard drive full of content that needs to be edited when you’re leaving Exxxotica.
Jack: Wow, yeah. That’s smart to use that time to, where all the creators are together, to…
Big Bear: Exactly.
Jack: Yeah. That’s great. So, yeah, you’ve given us the nuts and bolts of this job. I’m just curious to zoom out a little bit and talk about maybe who you are as a person. You know? You talk about doing the three-a-days, if you wanna call it that, at those shows and just wanted to see, you know, how that type of person shows up in your content. I mean, you describe yourself as a kinky, flirty, affectionate dom.
Big Bear: Yeah!
On-Camera Persona and Consent Practices
Jack: I’m just curious how you have those traits, I mean that’s you as a person, it sounds like, and so I’m just curious, do you do anything on purpose during shooting or during content creation that that how those traits show up?
Big Bear: Yeah. I think most of it comes naturally through for me. One of the things that is a challenge for me sometimes in a shoot is being flirty in a shoot.
And I know people are like, “what do you mean? You’re naked. You’re hooking up. You’re like, what do you mean you can’t be flirty?” Well, to me, I kind of have a reputation among other creators as being super organized and super professional.
So I’m not flirty with them outside of the shoot. So I’m not sitting here trying to pick people up and hit on them in DMs when I’m planning on working with them. So, you know, although I’m flirty with fans and stuff like that, with other creators, I try to keep it professional.
So that’s actually one where I have to ramp it up in the shoot in the moment, but all the rest of it comes really naturally. So, where I feel like I build a lot of that is I have a consent conversation at the beginning of my shoots. Kind of have an on camera interview where we talk about limits, kinks, boundaries, stuff like that. And that’s really kind of building that intimacy and allows people to feel more comfortable with me and allows me to get flirty in that conversation.
So in that, you know, I’m kind of hinting at stuff I wanna do to them and flirting then. And and so that’s where we’re building that because I haven’t flirted with them in our DMs and stuff like that up until then.
Jack: Okay.
Big Bear: And then but, yeah, once we’re filming, you know, then it really starts to come through. Like, I love kissing, cuddling, being sensual about touching. But, like, when I’m making out, groping them and lifting them up and stuff like that. So that’s natural for me.
So, that, I think, that passion comes through there, really well. And then, like, I love being able to, like, give when time allows, when I’m not, like, up against the window with a shoot window, giving them massages and stuff at the end. That can even be good content also is giving a massage or a central massage. It’s also good after care after a good, you know, hard kink session.
So that shows through in the content as well. So, but, yeah, I think that that allows me to show that affection inside of me and allows me to kinda create a bond. And that’s what I think a lot of the creators I’ve worked with wanna keep working with me. They don’t just you know, it’s not a one and done thing. They wanna keep working with me because, you know, I’m really professional, but I also do really well, setting up this situation for the shoot.
Lessons Big Bear Has Learned
Jack: Yeah. Sounds like it. Has this work taught you anything new about yourself along the way?
Big Bear: Yeah? I mean, a lot of things. But to me, it’s that being genuine and being respectful and professional with people, and being authentic. It’s, I think in this field especially, where everybody builds this false persona. There’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what you have to do. Like, there this is my clown persona. This is my, you know, goth e-girl persona. But it’s nothing like them in real life. They’re selling this other persona. But what I thought about me is that I’m a lot more successful when I’m just me.
Jack: Mhmm.
Big Bear: When I try not to be someone else. So to me, standing out is being authentic, respectful, connecting with people, and not trying to fit in a certain box, not even caring that the box exists… I’m ignoring the box.
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: Just build your own market. Like, so many people are trying to fit some market. Build your own market. And, you know, I do the same thing with social. I’m not trying to fit any kind of social strategy of somebody. Like, I really don’t care about other stuff. I don’t care about shadow banning. I’m not like, I don’t care about literally anything. I’m just gonna be consistent and do me, and it’s gonna go, you know?
Big Bear’s Experience with TrustyFans
Jack: Yeah. That makes a lot of sense. I love that authenticity, the aspect there. And like I mentioned in the beginning, that’s the whole kind of thought process of TrustyFans. And so I’d love to talk about your experience with the platform so far.
Big Bear: Yeah. So, I mean, there’s a lot of, like, I guess, OF promotion platforms is what I would call them, where they’re almost like they scrape stuff off of OF.
And, you know, if you wanna sponsor it, you can sponsor it. But, really, it’s just it’s not really you, and it doesn’t allow you to build a profile and doesn’t allow people to really search for you based on interests.
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: Stuff like that. So, TrustyFans, you know, to me really spoke to me because you’re not an agency trying to split revenue or trying to manage me. You know, you are a platform where we can, promote ourselves on that platform and really allow our fans to find us.
And, you know, I don’t like paying a lot of money into paid promotions also, like paying somebody else to retweet my stuff.
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: Paying for shout outs, stuff like that. Like, I get I’ve done that stuff before and gotten zero traction on anything. And I get DMs all the time from bots or whatever saying, wanna grow your OF?
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: And none of them got me anywhere. So when TrustyFans reached out to me, I looked at who you were, and I saw that it was kind of an opportunity to get in at the beginning, kind of in startup mode with a platform that was growing. And in the early days, you know, everything’s always exciting. But, the idea that I could build a profile and show off my strengths and who I am and let fans find me, you know, to me, that’s stunning.
And, I think that, you know, as you evolve, it’s gonna be even more powerful. And, you know, there’s a lot of things that will probably grow with you, like, more kinks and more interests and stuff like that in the lists.
Jack: Yep.
Big Bear: But, yeah, like, to me, that that is something that really stood out. FetLife, to me, has a great opportunity that they’ve missed for letting people search by kink. Stuff like that. You can look for interest in kinks on FetLife and find other people that are into that, but they’re not creator friendly. It’s just meant for individuals. It’s not meant for promoting a creator. So I think you guys are really kind of what we need right now in order to get that promotion going.
Jack: Well, thank you. Yeah. That’s what we noticed too, and I’m glad you identified those sites such as scrape content.
Big Bear: Mhmm.
Jack: Because when we first were doing kind of market research, we were looking at the sites like, “oh, man, they have, like, thousands of creators.” And the more I kind of dug into it, I was like, “this is just a copy of their OnlyFans. This has nothing to do with a creator,” that I saw. You know, maybe there’s different sites out there.
But, yeah. I’m glad you saw that because we really wanted creators to come to us and have their platform that they gave their own consent and permission to put themselves on.
Big Bear: Mhmm.
Jack: That’s what that was the whole experience there. So I’m glad I’m glad you identified that too.
Big Bear: Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. And I think, one of the things that kind of when I onboarded with you guys, I loved how you blasted out about me and kind of, you know, it was almost like you were a little PR firm for me. You know, tweeting out about, “hey, BigBear4Cuddles joined the platform,” you know, putting it on Instagram, etc.
That I think is a great service. And I think looking for more opportunities to add a PR element, as you continue to grow, I think, it is gonna be valuable to all of us. Yeah.
Jack: Yeah. I love… yeah. We’re so excited when we get a creator joining, so that’s why we wanna blast them out and just get everybody excited about you. You know? You joined this, and we’re trying to get you found, and so it’s great that that excitement carried through. I’m curious if another creator wanted to join TrustyFans, what would you kind of tell them?
Big Bear: Yeah. I’d say well, number one, they should do it because there’s no other platform that allows fans to find you based on kinks and interests and vibe and stuff like that. So, you know, there’s no reason not to join it. Like, it’s literally free to sign up. So it’s like it’s not like there’s a barrier to entry here.
So, you know, it’s a no brainer. So it makes sense to sign up.
And then, you know, there are some perks with, you know, doing the paid side of it also. But it’s, I think that any creator should at least get on the platform, because as you continue to grow, it’s gonna be a useful search engine that people are using to find creators. And if creators aren’t there, they’re missing out on opportunities.
Goals and Dream Collaborations
Jack: Yeah. We agree. And thank you so much for those kind words. Okay. Enough about TrustyFans. Let’s talk more about you. I’m just curious about you in the future, and what’s the horizon for Big Bear? Any big kinds of goals, dream collabs, new projects maybe that you’re excited about in the future?
Big Bear: Yeah. Yeah. So, I mean, my ultimate stretch goal is to make enough that I can comfortably quit my day job. Although I make decent money, with content, and I make enough that a lot of people would say, “oh, there’s no way I would work. I’m making that’s a lot of money. I’d be fine.” You know?
Mhmm. With me, I guess I’ve created a situation where I have golden handcuffs with my current job and everything. Like, I need a certain amount of money to survive and pay the bills and pay the mortgage and car payments. So, I have to work a little bit harder to get there. So, you know, but that’s my stretch goal is to make enough that I can comfortably do this and focus on this and not have to be distracted by a day job. You know, but that’s obviously a stretch goal, but I like a big stretch.
But, yeah, as far as collabs and everything, I think what’s funny is everybody always asks, like, who are your dream collabs or who’s on your collab bucket list? And those are important questions because that’s really you know, when those when those lists when I post those lists, that’s actually how I get attention from a lot of big creators and get those collabs.
But, nobody asks, like, what collabs have you done that you would do again? Or or even more importantly, like, who would you not wanna collab with again? But, like, that’s that we won’t put anywhere. But that’s, you know, there are disaster collabs too that just nobody wants to do that again.
Jack: Yeah.
Big Bear: But, yeah as far as dream collabs, like, there’s a lot of guys and a lot of girls that are very interesting to me. Some of them don’t know why I exist, and some of them do. But I think number one on my list is scout, scoutyuna with like, split tongue, tattooed as hell, you know, tiny girl. Size difference would be amplified shooting with her, like, kinky. Like, she kinda checks the boxes.
But, yeah, I have a list of dream collabs and, you know, and then some bears and, you know, Gerald Bottoms. Everybody knows who he is. You know, getting some of those collabs in would make a big difference to me, not only in following, but, like, the content would be fire. It’s like It’s so exciting.
Jack: I mean, yeah.
Big Bear: Exactly. Exactly. But, yeah, like, collabs that I would do again and again, like, that’s an important thing. And I know there’s a lot of creators on here also as well as fans. You know, when you’re looking at, like, the content I’ve done, like, Lucipork was amazing. I would collab with her any day of the week. Like, Elli X Raven, like, as far as a versatile, like, person that will do any kind of content and is very attractive and will definitely look good on camera — phenomenal. Misty Rein, same. Battering Ram with that enthusiasm. It’s like, yes.
It’s so it’s like there’s there’s a lot of people that that have just impressed me so well that even if I’d never collab with anybody new and could just collab with this group of people all the time, I would. You know? It’s great content.
Jack: That’s awesome. It sounds very, you know, a huge list. You said you had kind of a list, but it sounds like you got a big, big list of big dreams. So that’s great.
Big Bear: Exactly.
Jack: It sounded like you also wanna do this for the rest of your life and kinda quit your vanilla job. Is that safe to say? Yeah?
Big Bear: Yeah. I think a lot of people do this for a little bit to kinda get them through a survival mode and they’re kinda dreaming of getting out of it. With me, it’s like, “no, I wanna actually control my own income. I wanna control my life. I don’t wanna have to work for the man forever. I wanna be the one in charge.” And, you know, I’m already older than most in this field.
I’m already, you know, I’m 46. So it’s like I’m not a young buck. I’m daddy porn age, you know. So it’s like, I need to embrace that theme going forward and keep going.
And, as far as like in the future, I mean, I’ll be in my fifties soon, and I’m planning on keeping it going. And, you know, when I age out and I’m looking at being grandpa porn, like, I will do that. And I’ll just have somebody over my lap getting spanked when I’m doing grandpa porn. Like, it doesn’t matter.
There’s no reason to stop, ever. Like and if something happened and I’m in a wheelchair, like, I’m gonna rock it. It doesn’t like, really, there is no reason to stop at any age right now. You know?
Jack: Yeah. I love that energy because I was gonna ask you five years now, what do you think you wanna be doing? But it sounds like this. It sounds like just adapting and growing of who you are. Is that kinda simple? Right?
Big Bear: Absolutely. Yeah. I think that, when when all is said and done, like, being inclusive, being, like, one thing that they all know when they see Big Bear is “Big Bear loves to fuck.” It’s like and so it’s like “Big Bear fucks everybody” is the legacy that I wanna build.
And, it’s kind of the, you know, “no hole is safe from Big Bear.” It’s kind of who I am. So that’s really kind of what I want to come through and regardless of age. You know, even when things don’t work as well as they should and I’m older and everything, still, there’s a lot you can do even if nothing’s working downstairs. Like, there’s I’ll make content still. So, yeah, I plan to keep it going.
Where to Follow Big Bear Online
Jack: I love that. I love that. Well, this has been an amazing and fun conversation. But before we wrap up, I wanna make sure people who are listening or might be listening later, where can people follow and support you?
Big Bear: Yeah. So, I mean, follow me here and on BlueSky, you know, on Twitter… on X is where I live almost all day. It’s like, that is my everyday passion is just living on this platform. But BlueSky, I’m also very active on. Instagram, not as much. It’s like, I can never figure out what pictures to post there. So it’s, like, just lame selfies of people I’ve collabed with.
But, as far as from fans, it’s like, if you wanna get involved, it’s, you know, OnlyFans or DarkFans. DarkFans, if you’re into the kinker content, when it does come out, it’ll be going to that platform.
And SextPanther, if you wanna talk to me, like, get on there and you can text me. We can video chat, whatever, and just spend time together on that platform.
Final Takeaways from Big Bear
Jack: That’s great. And, maybe any last words you’d like to share with fans or creators tuning in today?
Big Bear: Yeah. Well, both fans and creators. So, I mean and I’ll kinda pitch this towards bigger guys, but it could just be bigger people in general. You know, I get a lot of fans that are bigger guys that kind of adore me because of the action I’m getting. They’re like, you know, “you’re getting so many hot girls. You’re getting so many hot guys.” Whatever.
They’re all, like, you know, worshiping me because I’m able to do this. And I’m like, “you can too.” It literally has nothing to do with your body. It’s when you open your mouth is where you’re gonna score or not. Like and it’s not that you have to lie and become a pickup artist. Literally, the only thing stopping you is you. Just be genuine. Look people in the eyes.
Smile. It’ll come to you. Like, you don’t have to, try to figure out how to pick people up or anything.
But, so, you know, there are a lot of creators that feel like I can’t get collabs because I don’t have this look. Like, look at me, dude. Like, it’s not about that. Like, it’s just genuinely being a good person, and it’ll come to you.
Jack: I love that. Well, Big Bear, thank you so much for sharing your story today and giving us a behind the scene look of your content life.
Big Bear: Thank you so much for having me.
Jack: Of course. And I just wanna say I also love your genuine enthusiasm and energy. I can feel it through the microphone, so I just wanted to say that too.
Big Bear: Thank you.
Jack: Yeah. And did you have anything else?
Big Bear: No. No. I just really hope that everybody comes aboard on TrustyFans that’s not. You know, fans use it to look around and see other creators. If you have creators that you look at that aren’t on there, encourage them to come to the platform. Make sure you review the ones that are on there that you like. That means a lot to us, and that’s gonna help us gain some traction there.
Jack: I love it. Thanks for saying that. And so for all the creators who are out there tuning in, this is exactly what Bear said and why we built TrustyFans. We’re not an agency. We’re not an OnlyFan-style platform. We don’t take a cut of your earnings or own your content. Instead, Trusty Fans is a first creator search engine, a place where you can post your authentic self, showcase your brand, and get found by fans who are already searching for someone like you.
So creating a profile is free just like Big Bear said. And if you’re already ready to be discovered by fans, go ahead and head over to TrustyFans.com and claim your spot today. Until next time, I am Jack Anderson, and this has been Creator Spotlight. Thank you so much again, Big Bear.
Big Bear: Thank you.
